Early this morning, Anastasia decided, with her friend, they would play over her house today. I guess she has a drum set and a piano. I thought, cool, quiet around here and maybe I could get some of this pressing work done.
Yes, I was completely WRONG!
About every 20 minutes or so I got a MMS (Multimedia Message) on my phone from Anastasia and her friends singing and playing the instruments. They decided to record themselves and kept sending the newly recorded masterpieces to me. This went on all day.
I wanted to be mad, I wanted to call her and tell her to stop, how could I though? The messages were so cute. Every time I got one I just stopped what I was doing to listen to it.
And in the end, she asked me to send one back to her, so I did. Here is mine:
My Message to Anastasia
(Yes the beat and music in the background I created.)
She came in a few minutes later laughing at the message. ;)
There are five days left till we leave for the cruise. I don’t usually panic or worry, although Anastasia is out of school and I am convinced she thinks I sit home and play all day long while she is in school. I have a new client and a TON of work to get done for them before I go on the cruise and I only have today through Thursday to get it done. Ugh. Friday we are all driving to San Diego for embarkation (spelling?).
Any way, I told Anastasia to make list of things we could do this week, so we could do something before we leave. She scheduled out the rest of the week with no time for me to work. Guess she’s my travel and event coordinator. :)
I know it has been a day since I wrote. Been VERY busy with work stuff.
Today we are going over my older sister’s house. I called her to see if Anastasia and I could come over earlier so her kids and my daughter could play. They haven’t seen each other in about 2 weeks, so I thought that would be cool.
She said that was fine to come over early and she needed to talk to me about something. She wouldn’t say what, although she said it had something to with Anastasia. Hmmm… She said she didn’t want to tell me over the phone and she said it would be much better if we talked in person.
I know my older sister. I consider her my second mother. She is just like my mom in many ways. So when she brings something like this up and she is very hush hush about it, I know it’s serious.
Guess I am leaving earlier to go find out what’s up. :\
To be continued…
EDIT: 28 Sept 2008
As a single father raising my daughter there are plenty of things Anastasia will go through that I will NEVER understand. My hopes and dreams have always been I would be with a woman that cares about her enough to talk to her about all things ‘girl’ by the time she gets there.
Anastasia’s 10 and a half and I’m still single, still raising her by myself. So this weekend’s issue, which I will not go into detail about, was more a ’she’s growing up and changing’ type issue.
I realize I am getting to that point where I have to rely on what I have taught her to this point and hope and pray it is enough to get her through. I will become more a coach than a ‘parent’. It is so hard to realize my little girl is becoming a woman and there is NOTHING I can do about it.
And NO amount of punishment will stop the process.
<sigh>
I really don’t like that phrase. “Sorry to bother you.” Anastasia has told me that about 10 times today. Most of time it prepended a want or begging of some sort. She was out with her friend most of the day. She would text me everyonce in a while and call occasionally. They were over another friends house, then over a different friend’s house, then they begged to come here. Then she needed a drink. Then she wanted her scooter. Then she wanted to change her shirt. Then she wanted to go to the church that her friend’s parents volunteer at.
All starting with, “I’m sorry to bother you.” UGH. I think she thinks that makes me softer or calms me down. It doesn’t.
It makes me feel horrible. Am I that busy that she constantly feels like she is bothering me. I don’t think so. Cause I could be working on her computer, or making dinner and she tells me that.
I think it is a new phase she is going through. Hopefully this one passes quick.
Today was better than Monday. Anastasia went outside to play, she had a friend she spent most of the day with. I also got Napster loaded on her computer. I pay for it, she is a music fanatic, so I thought, “Hey! There’s a time killer..er…I mean, something fun to do!”
The day progressed nicely, I still didn’t get much done. I got my new phone so I spent much of the afternoon setting it up. Hopefully today will be A LOT more productive.
