That’s right, you read correctly.
Last week was Anastasia’s final week of school before Christmas break. Anastasia came home on Monday (last week) and told me she didn’t have any homework. I thought it was odd, although I asked her a few times and she told me she didn’t have any. I asked Tuesday, then Wednesday.
On Wednesday her report card came in, she dropped in almost EVERY subject. Her grades dropped ALOT. At that point I decided I needed to call her teacher on Thursday (Dec 11th).
When I talked to Anastasia’s teacher, she told me that Anastasia talks non stop and that almost none of her school work has been turned in and that is why her grades are so low. I asked her teacher why her grades were so low and she told me it was because Anastasia talks so much, her work doesn’t get done and then she never turns it in.
Then Anastasia’s teacher told me that she had full day (detention) that day because Anastasia lost her homework point card. I told her teacher that Anastasia told me she didn’t have any homework. He teacher told me yes she did and that Anastasia told her that she left her homework at home. Oh boy.
Looks like the lying is in FULL swing again.
When Anastasia got home I told her she was grounded. She was not allowed off the wall (you know the old nose on the wall punishment) unless she had a pass. So now when does anything that takes her off the wall, chores, eating, schoolwork, etc. she needs to have this pass I made for her.
I am trying to get through to her, that not only is lying bad, she needs to remember the rules and follow them even though she is not reminded constantly.
It has been two days into her ‘vacation’ and I hate it when she is punished. The only thing that keeps my staying the course with this punishment is I know it will make her a better person in school and in the future.
12:18 pm on December 19th, 2008
I think that making your daughter keep her nose on a wall all day except for small breaks is very harsh. Maybe there is a reason for lying to teachers and you. Have you thought how single parenting is not only hard on you but her also. She has no other person to turn to if things with you aren’t going well. Do you have a mentoring program or big brothers big sisters program in your city?
12:40 pm on December 19th, 2008
If you keep the course you’re going, she won’t be a better person because of it. She’ll resent you. Dealing with lying is not a drawn out procedure. You deal with it directly and then enforce the same discipline every time she lies. For example, soap in the mouth. Or have her do an extra chore. Or take away a privledge like watching t.v. But not forcing her to keep her nose to the wall. That’s a bit much.
12:54 pm on December 19th, 2008
Ahhh the nose on the wall blah I remember that well. It doesn’t sound to me that he is having her there all day. but I remember those days when I was a child. At school if I was in trouble they had me do that and my parents did to. Must have worked because I still remember it LOL. All I can say is I do like the soap in the mouth idea or extra chore. I read a lot of your posts from earlier too. The vacation one and your relationship with your daughter. Its refreshing to see and I hope she does better at school. The beautician one though hmmmm Haha! That was cute!
1:27 pm on December 20th, 2008
Hello,
I to think the nose to the wall (all day) is way to harsh. She may be deppressed and needs a friend. there is a reason she is doing this and you need to find out why. I would take things from her such as no tv all day and add a chore. but do not be mad at her. just make her do these things and move on. if you seem mad she will feel you do not love her. Thats not the feeling you want her to have. she will feel she is not good enough and all she does is get in trouble…love is everything…If you want my advice I will gladly give it anytime just e-mail me :)