A Single Daddy’s Blog

Single Parenting from a Father’s Perspective.

I am single. That fact is pretty obvious considering the blog name. I have full custody of Anastasia and her mother saw Anastasia for the first time in almost 7 years just before Christmas.

Reality is; I never thought I would be here raising my daughter on my own. I never thought I would be single at this age in life. I was a dealt a set of cards and I played them. I am exceptionally happy with the relationship I have with my daughter. Sure she lies, although I did too when I was little.

No one will ever come between my daughter and I. That is a picture I have painted for Anastasia since she was younger. And it seems in recent months Anastasia has lost sight of that fact. So I have restated it several times to her.  There is a bond that children have with their parents and that needs to be made clear to children over and over again.

I know I have not done a good job of this  is something I need to do a much better job with.

A new friend and quickly becoming a very close one has a blog and posted something very interesting to me today. The post is titled “On Growing Up…..Does Anyone?” As read about her father, cowboys and indians and the subject of growing up I started to think of my past and the instances in my life that stick out to me.

I thought about Anastasia and her growing up and what she would remember about me. I actually feel confident that Anastasia will remember me as the immature video game playing harley riding cool dad that I would hope she would remember me as. Her and I have so much fun together. And with her getting older is only opening opportunities for us to share more fun together.

I suddenly am looking forward to the future again. :)

Thank you Annie.

Here is her blog post: http://southbeachannie.blogspot.com/2009/01/on-growing-updoes-anyone.html

Today was CrAzY Hair day at my daughter’s school. We decided last night we would do her hair like a mohawk, or at least as close as we can get. After Anastasia got ready I got ready for the transformation. When I started I immediately realized I needed a hair dryer and hair spray which I didn’t have.

Sooo…Plan B…..
I told Anastasia to get all the hair ties she had and I would do something ’special’ with her hair… ;)

She brought me 5 hair ties, so she got 5 pony tails in her head. That’s right I am an AR TEEST!!

Here’s the pictures:

My hairstyle project

My hairstyle project

Anastasias hairdo

Anastasias hairdo

Back of my smooth hair style

Back of my smooth hair style

I am a beautician I know it

I am a beautician I know it

She is SOOOOO proud that I did her hair, all her friends will jealous. :D

So proud of her hairdoo

So proud of her hairdoo

So when did the year almost come to an end without me knowing?

This year I have had some big changes in my life, some expected, others were not. Anastasia has had a good year, although she is still looking forward to Christmas and not reflecting like I already am.

This month I turn 37. If you asked me when I was younger how my life would turn out, I would have never guessed I would be where I am now. Not so much location, status I guess would be the easiest way to describe it. I never thought I would be
raising my daughter on my own. I never thought I would still be single. On that subject, I would have never guessed, wrote about or even fathom the events of this year, let alone my life up until now.

So much more to live yet. I am pretty sure I have not hit the half way point of my life, although who knows. If I go with what I was told I only have till I am 63. No, I don’t believe in fortune tellers, tarot cards or palm readers. I was told this by someone not of the living. Long story, I won’t get into it now. Although I think it was a lie. Wouldn’t be the first time. Again, long story.

Who knows what lies ahead, I know where I have been and I know what I have done and what I have been exposed to.

All I can do is keep being the best father I know how. The rest will fall in place. Even if it only falls in place for my daughter, that is my only purpose now.

It’s nice to have an ordinary day once in a while.

I woke up late as usual, got Anastasia up. Decided to have her catch the bus instead of taking her early like I normally do. She had a normal day.

I sold one of my phones on craigslist.
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