A Single Daddy’s Blog

I am sure I am not the only one, when the perfect sequence of buttons are pushed I fly off the handle. It happens. And I did last Thursday. I am sure there was a better way to handle it, although I was faced with making a decision I was not comfortable with and even though I needed to make it, I was very upset about it. And when my past was thrown at me, I went over the edge. For all purposes, I am sorry. You know who I am writing this too, so I will leave it nameless, although I am sorry.

Last week and into this weekend has been pretty trying. I am sure God has a reason for it all, although I really dislike the drama that has been placed in my lap.

Last week, part of my past came back claiming to care about me, culminating in that ‘past’ person telling me I was not ‘allowed’ to write about them (on any blog) anymore and me telling them never to contact me again. Although I guess that was the best I could have expected. In the end, we never saw eye to eye and this way is probably better because we will live our lives and move forward. Well at least the person I am referring to will. I choose to go no where, although that is another story for another blog.

In other news, a neighbor, that I considered a close friend, and I have not been speaking to each other. I am still pretty hazy as to why, although I think I am ‘blind’ and that may be this neighbor’s whole issue with me. (I am summarizing generally.)

Then in a semi-related issue, the Assistant Principal at Anastasia’s school lied to me on Friday about a write-up, according to him, she never got. Although I have an email from the aide that wrote her up proving she was written up, and Anastasia telling me that she got written up for things she never did.

Now, let me be the first to say, I KNOW Anastasia lies, ALOT. I have been working with her on that. Although, why would the aide write me an email telling me they are ’sorry’ and they had ‘no choice’ other than to write her up? Then, that very day when Anastasia came home she told me the story with no prompting. She told me about how the Asst Principal called her to his office because of this write up, she said she didn’t do any of it, he called the student she supposedly ‘touched’ and that student told the Asst. Principal that Anastasia never ‘touched’ him. The Asst. Principal threw away the write up and sent Anastasia back to class. This all according to Anastasia.

Then, on Friday I go to the school and question the Asst. Principal about the write up and he tells me there was none.

Now again, I know Anastasia lies, although she lies to keep herself out of trouble, at least in her thoughts, that’s why she lies. In this case, Anastasia told me about the write up without me asking. If Anastasia had the slightest thought she would get in trouble she would have hid it like she does with EVERYTHING else. And I have an email from the aide. Yet the Asst. Principal denies it all.

Simple Answer: Something ain’t stirring the Kool-Aid at Anastasia’s school. And the Assistant Principal is definitely lying.

So, I am off to start my Monday. I had a rough weekend with Anastasia, she has decided to start giving me attitude on and off. So she was grounded most the weekend.

Just not sure what Anastasia’s fascination is with these HALLOWEEN tights, although she typically asks once a week if she can wear them. I finally said yes to her today.

She told me she wore them before and in the rush to get out of the house this morning I didn’t ask her when, although that is on my list to talk to her about tonight.

I will post pictures when she gets home…..

Today my daughter asked if she could ride her bike outside. “Of course!” I told her. It was a beautiful day and my car now sits in the driveway because my new bike is too big to site next to the car in the garage.

She opened the garage door, brought her bike outside then closed the garage door so she could go out the front door and then ride her bike. When she came in I asked if had any issues getting her bike out. She stuttered a little although answered no.

I thought, maybe a little more digging was in order. I asked if she hit my bike at all. She started to tell this story about how she was able to pull her bike out between my motorcycle and the wall and how she didn’t hit my motorcycle at all though.

Now I knew she was lying. Even my sister looked at me weird. We both knew.

So I went downstairs into the garage and I asked her if she hit my bike or she needed to rub up against it to get her bike out. After some prodding she told me yes that she did, then told me no she didn’t and that she just tld me that because that is what I wanted to hear.

Then, a few lies later and some attitude, I told her to go to her room and she was not going outside. I am of course giving the watered down version here. She had an attitude on her, WOW, I was frustrated to say the least.

After a while of her in her room, I told her why I was so upset and that all she needs to do is tell me the truth, no matter what it will always be better than lying.

Then she told me she rub up against my motorcycle with her pants and that she didn’t want to tell me because she knew she would get in trouble. I asked her, for what? For rubbing her pants up against one of my saddlebags that would not get a mark on them by her pants????

She said yes. Then I pointed out to her how much more trouble she got into now that she lied. If she told me the truth from the beginning she would have been outside playing.

Ugh…

Today Anastasia and I wen over my parents house. My mother is still working so just my father was home. He was having a rough day, his cable modem went out and once I got there we troubleshot it and figured out his router went bad and it wasn’t his modem after all. We spent about 4 hours between me running home to get my spare cable modem and then again for my spare router.

During this time Anastasia was doing her typical math work she has been doing everyday. She does not know her multiplication tables like the back of her hand yet and she should. So I have her writing them daily and hopefully by the time winter break is over she will know them. Plus she is grounded for lying to me the  last week of school.

I was shooting pictures for my other website (whatitsworthnow.com) and decided to take some video of this merry go round. My father was bringing in a ladder and needed Anastasia to move. She decided she needed to go all the way across the room so she could be in the background of the video I was shooting.

Not cool. Especially when I am doing this for a site that has nothing to do with her. And she knows better. This is not the first time I have shot video of something and she decides to get herself into it any way she can.

I had her write a paper about why she shouldn’t have done it and she lied in that too. She wrote about how she was trying to see grandpa’s computer screen. For the record, the whole time I was videoing she was staring at me and the camera and grandpa’s computer screen was behind her.

I am VERY frustrated with this right now….

That’s right, you read correctly.

Last week was Anastasia’s final week of school before Christmas break. Anastasia came home on Monday (last week) and told me she didn’t have any homework. I thought it was odd, although I asked her a few times and she told me she didn’t have any. I asked Tuesday, then Wednesday.

On Wednesday her report card came in, she dropped in almost EVERY subject. Her grades dropped ALOT. At that point I decided I needed to call her teacher on Thursday (Dec 11th).

When I talked to Anastasia’s teacher, she told me that Anastasia talks non stop and that almost none of her school work has been turned in and that is why her grades are so low. I asked her teacher why her grades were so low and she told me it was because Anastasia talks so much, her work doesn’t get done and then she never turns it in.

Then Anastasia’s teacher told me that she had full day (detention) that day because Anastasia lost her homework point card. I told her teacher that Anastasia told me she didn’t have any homework. He teacher told me yes she did and that Anastasia told her that she left her homework at home. Oh boy.

Looks like the lying is in FULL swing again.

When Anastasia got home I told her she was grounded. She was not allowed off the wall (you know the old nose on the wall punishment) unless she had a pass. So now when does anything that takes her off the wall, chores, eating, schoolwork, etc. she needs to have this pass I made for her.

I am trying to get through to her, that not only is lying bad, she needs to remember the rules and follow them even though she is not reminded constantly.

It has been two days into her ‘vacation’ and I hate it when she is punished. The only thing that keeps my staying the course with this punishment is I know it will make her a better person in school and in the future.